Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Family Secrets Day 214

Hi, how are you today, just fine thank you! As a society are we really fine, or are we living generations of family secrets, ashamed to hurt or to show our true emotions. Have we become white-washed tombs, with no real desire for truth in our daily lives.

Don`t get me wrong, I don`t mean that you have to share everything with everybody , but what about the truth within our own families? How many of us, spend our entire life, securely holding onto family secrets, only to take them to our graves. That`s doesn`t allow much inner generational healing, as a society we are all so hurt and broken. Oh I forgot, that`s right you can just pop, the "I`m broken and hurting pill", to relieve your pain and discomfort.

As for me hold the pills, I prefer--John 8:31-32 To the Jew who had believed him, Jesus said, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

Yes, I will agree medications are needed in many cases, I`m just talking about my personal needs, please understand that!

I recently shared my mom-mom`s Bible story, which has lead me to additional thinking and investigating. Oh, did our family have a secret! There are so many unanswered questions and no one alive to ask to fill in the blanks.

My father was serving in World War 2, when my mother gave birth to his first son, Georgie. My mother worked during the day, her mother took care of baby Georgie. The unthinkable happened, as my 40 something year old grandmother took care of him.

He fell down "one step", broke his neck and died instantly, while in the care of his mom-mom. I can not imagine the effects this must have had on my young, 20 something year old mother and her mother. My father never met his first born son.

Through-out their entire lives my mother and father did the best that they could, covering up pain and stashing hurts deep inside, while raising five additional children.

I have only one picture of me and mom-mom, I look to be about 2 years old. Apparently this photo was taken only months before her death, at of young age of 47. According to mom, mom-mom just laid down on the couch one morning and never woke up. They assumed she died from a heart attack, there was no autopsy performed.

It wasn`t until 50 years later that my Aunt Kitty, disclosed the truth about this family disaster, of so many years ago. Georgie, had fallen down an entire flight of steps not just "one step." Had mom-mom thought this secret, would make life easier for everyone.

Did it allow her to feel less guilt, responsibility and shame; or did it actually lead to her early, untimely death? Had my mom held onto unforgiveness and fear all of her life? Had my dad self medicated, away his pain with his addiction to alcohol? Had my mom used food as a crutch, living her life battling obesity?

So many unanswered questions; that may never be answered! I know that this family secret will open my eyes to the truth, as I strive to live in truth, knowing who I am, why I am, the way I am. Georgie's`s death was an accident, no matter what the true details were.

I pray that someday in heaven, to once again be held in mom-mom`s arms, while being introduced to my oldest brother Georgie. Actually, I`m looking forward to a huge family reunion in heaven. God, there`s no rush for this prayer to be answered! Amen.

Ecclesiastes 3 10-12 I have seen the burden God has laid on men. He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live

1 comment:

  1. Once truths are revealed, there may be hurt and anger, but there will eventually be forgiveness and a feeling of gratitude for the honesty.
    Many people though, by no fault of their own, but simply because they were never taught the appropriate coping skills, are just not able to handle the truth. Its unfortunate, but so is the life that many live these days.....Great Blog :)

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